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Post by Muslimah16 on Sun Jun 28, 2009 4:47 pm


Etiquette of Meeting One's Husband when he returns from a journey

Before leaving on a journey , a husband asked his wife what he should bring for her.

She said:,"May Allah bring you back safely because you are my greatest blessing in this world and Hereafter .I need nothing but that you return to me safely ."

Any husband would be glad to hear such a reply because it indicates that she loves him more than material things..

When the husband returns ,the wife should ask him how he is feeling and whether everything went well.

She should show concern about what he ate and what he did .She should express gratitude to Allah for returning him home safely and should also tell the children to express gratitude to Allah.When her husband returns ,the wife should never bombard him with all the problems she experienced in his absence and then follow this up with a baggage of questions like What did you bring for me ?
What did you bring for children? and Did you spend all our money ?Such questions will cause a wife to fall from the sight of her husband .

Of course once he has settled at home ,she may ask him everything about the journey .She should also show happiness with whatever he brings for her even though it may not be exactly what she wants .

She should never tell him that he should have brought something in a different style ,a different colour ,etc..

Saying such things will hurt his feelings and discourage him from bringing gifts in future.She should praise everything he brings and thank him profusely.

Take Good care of your husband possessions

A wife should be particular about caring for her husband's possessions and keeping them in an orderly fashion.The room should always be neat,the bed should always made and the bedding always clean.It is useless if the husband has to tell the wife to keep the house tidy because things are more appreciated when they get done without a bidding.

The wife should be even more particular about the tidiness of those things that her husband is fussy about .If he gives her something to put away ,she should ensure that she keeps it safely.Hos clothes should be folded or hung and not left strewn around...

There are women who will found beating children when the husband steps in the house .Whereas the man may be returning tired and frustrated,yearning for peace and quiet home ,he is confronted by wailing children and an irritated wife.The result :He cannot bear being at home and seeks an outlet in parks,clubs,restaurants and other company.

He gradually begins to hate his family,regarding them as punishment for his sins.

The incompetence of the wife therefore deprives the innocent children of their father's love and attention.A woman who is constantly screaming at the children and hitting them falls from her husband's eyes and he will soon begin to admire women who are calmer.

Picture this scene.

The husband returns home tired.

As he enters the door his wife is chatting to her neighbour over the fence or talking to someone on the phone.

Her dressing is shabby and her hair dishevelled.

The house is in mess ,whith flies buzzing around dirty dishes scattered around the kitchen .

Opening the refrigirator for some water,he finds it dirty,with no water in the water bottle.

Picking up a glass to take water from the tap,he finds it sticky and greasy

.Such a man is justly warranted to weep over his situation.

Who can blame him for looking for another wife?

Women should also refrain from making excuses for things they don't do and from lying because this will reduce husband's confidence in them ..
It should not be that their husbands stop believing even the truths they say...

Never ask for anything above your husbands possessions

A wife should be content with whatever her husband can afford to provide for her.

If she desires something that he is unable to afford ,she should not ask for it
Should she ask for such a thing ,the husband will automatically think that she is inconsiderate.
Of course,if the husband asks her what she would like to have ,she may express her desire.
She should not ask for it without his request because asking people for things lowers one in their sight .
Ask only from Allah .Allah loves those who ask from Him and is displeased with those who do not ask Him.

On the other hand ,people become displeased when asked something.Remember that Allah has given people whatever they have and He can easily give you the same.

Dear sister! It is unfortunate that now days we tend to live beyond our means.

Apart from the fact that the cost of living has soared ,people tend to turn a blind eye to their necessities and keep buying things that they do not need.A man who is not in debt should be very greatfull to Allah.

One should remember that besides Allah ,no one will be there for one if one is in financial crisis.Never buy anything that one can do without and never spend beyond one's means.

It is extremely imprudent of many "fashionable" women to waste their husband's hard earned money on unnecessary clothing and fashion accessories. Every wife ought to economize and save something every month for rainy days.

Economizing does not mean that one should be miserly.
It simply means that one should not spend on things that are not necessary and that one should not pay more for something that can be bought for less...

Every woman's wish

It is the natural desire of every woman to have a husband who does what she wants,who consults her before doing anything and who hands all his money over to her so that she may run the home as she desires.Despite having this desire many women fail to make any efforts to realize this desire .Without having any respect for their husbands ,they become furious about the littlest thing and storm out of the house at the slightest provocation .They are constantly arguing with their husbands about clothing and jewelry and still expect their husbands to do as they say.Not only are such women disrupting the homes of their husbands ,but they are destroying the lives of both their families.

Learn to Love your Husband

Every woman should learn to love her husband.irrespective of how evil,ill-mannered or dim-witted her husband may be ,the wife holds in her hand the keys to set her husband straight.There are numerous examples of women who have successfully changed their husbands for the better.there are no obstacles for the patient woman.when a woman sincerely loves and serves her husband ,it is impossible for him to stray away from her.

Conquer His Heart.

Your husbands heart will be conquered by the resounding throb of love emanating from the deepest recesses of your heart.Always keep your home clean and ensure that everything of beauty in your home is well arranged .keep your loving gaze fixed on him and always meet him with a smile.Obey whatever he tells you instead of arguing .InshaAllah ,this will ensure a happy marriage.

Secure Fasten The Bond of Love

Allah has created the bond of love between people and this bond can only be secured with injunctions of the Shariah..This bond is not loose one and will not break with a slight jostle.When a couple get married ,they have pledged their loyalty to each other and the wife is always in a position to fasten the bond more securely.By doing everything to please him and by sharing his joys and problems ..In this transaction,profits are accrued when evrything is given without taken in return...

JazakAllah khair for reading
May Allah make us pious and righteous wives and grant us muttaqi hubbys! Ameen ya Rab


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Post by Muslimah16 on Sun Jun 28, 2009 4:51 pm

OoOops forgot to mention the source, apologies

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