To feel Special

Slmz

Thought 4 today...

MAN mainly has 2 SEE

2 appreciate a WOMAN,

But He must realise,

A WOMAN has 2 b made

To FEEL SPECIAL

in order for her to appreciate her MAN.





Here are some Tips & Sunnahs to Practice for Success...

Especially for husbands with goals to Nurture Happy Wives...

No one ever thinks about the characteristics of a Muslim husband.

It is always what a wife should do for the husband...and the list never
ends; home management, tutoring, ferrying the kids, caring, cooking,
cleaning, washing, working even; you name it, she's doing it, so what
about the brothers?

Our beloved Nabi SAW was not EVER lazy, so why the men of this ummah?

It is quite interesting, so I thought I'd share it with you!!!



What a Muslim husband should be like...

* Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the
last time you went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband
wants his wife to look nice for him,

she also wants her husband to dress up for her too.Remember that Nabi
(SAW) would always start with Miswak when returning home and always
loved the sweetest smells.

* Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most
beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.



* Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our
daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day -
which brings no attention from the husband

- until she does something to 'bug' him.

Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and
focus on that.

* If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not
comment!

This is one of the ways Nabi (SAW) used when he would see something
inappropriate from his wives (R.A). It's a technique that few Muslim men
have mastered.

* Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often.

Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah.

Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling.

Remember also those Ahadith when Nabi (SAW) would kiss his wife before
leaving for Salaah, even when he was fasting.



* Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again!
Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the
home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare before your return. And
sometimes the only acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to
be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her! Nabi (SAW) use
to help his wives with the housework, he mended his own clothes, and
patched his own footwear. Never forget -what your wife does for you
without any assistance is actually out of her goodness, much of the
tasks today's wife does is actually a favour to you! Acknowledge it. Be
grateful.



* Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that
made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize
what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game,
ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

* Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may
look down upon the requests of their wives. Nabi (SAW) set the example
for us in an incident when Safiyyah (R.A) was crying because, as she
said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her,
and brought her the camel.

* Be humorous, play games with your wife, and surprise her once in
a while with gifts.

Nabi (SAW) encouraged the giving of gifts. Look at how would race with
his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert.

When was the last time we did something like that?



* Don't ever refer to your wife in the third person, & never in a
negative or mocking manner, even if you are right. Remember she is the
mother of your children. She deserves their respect & honour more than
anyone else in the world. Don't promote & advertise yourself as better
than her. Let Allah be the judge. Protect her dignity.



Woman was not made from man's head to be superior over,

Nor his feet to be trampled on.

She emerged from his side to walk next to,

from under the arm to be protected,

& from near the heart to be loved & valued...



* Don't feel intimidated by your woman's strengths or aptitude,
admire her, & treat her as an equal as in the eyes of Allah. Encourage
her, support her, & be there for her. Allah has not granted superiority
of one over the other, but rather has assigned each different tasks
according to the uniqueness of His male and female creation. Nabi (SAW)
has said that if he would have commanded bowing to any other aside from
Allah, it would have been the wife to the husband. This is not a matter
to inflate your ego, but to underline how much you need to do for her so
as to have earned this status. Remember your attitude towards her would
determine the depth of her love for you, her appreciation, and the
warmth of her behaviour towards you.


* Don't be a "ruler". Be a mediator; compassionate, loving,
understanding, compromising.
This is what wins a woman's heart, nothing more, nothing less...

Hear her cries for acceptance, don't complicate matters for her, make
things easier...

Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (SAW): 'The best of you
are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst
you to my family.' Try to be the best!



* Every time you see your wife don't order her to do something,
Neither complain about anything.

She'll begin to avoid you and your company like the plague! Stop finding
faults with her all the time, she'll lose respect for you. Treat others
as you would like to be treated. Use hikmah (tact), be diplomatic. and
be considerate. Do things to develop her love for you and strengthen the
bond.



* NEVER EVER COMPARE YOUR WIFE TO YOUR MOTHER, SISTER,
SISTER-IN-LAW, OR ANY FEMALE, whose supposedly "better" at something
than she is. Don't praise other women so as to make her feel as if she
"doesn't-cut-the-cloth". This spells disaster for her self-confidence,
and stunts love between spouses. She'll begin to feel inferior, and in
her desire to live up to your expectations, she'll soon feel taken for
granted, because you'd never recognise her attempts, but always find
something else that's not right or needs to be bettered. Your wife will
soon begin to despise you, she'd feel like your servant, a wall-fly,
because it's always "so hard to please you" and you're "never
satisfied"! So please be cognisant of this habit!



* In conclusion: Everyone has weaknesses, find agreeable ways of
working around them together. Never forget to make Dua to Allah - ta'ala
to make your marriage successful.

And Allah ta'ala knows best!!